Ask yourself this question:
What can I put in place right now to help me start 2020 in the best possible way?
What can I put in place right now to help me start 2020 in the best possible way?
REFLECTION
Phone on silent and placed in another room, centre yourself
in a quiet and clutter-free space. Then, with your day to day diary, if you keep
one (if not, use your memory), look back on each month and make a note of what your monthly goals were. With
those you did not achieve, write down any obstacles and be honest with
yourself about how realistic and necessary those goals are to enable you to
decide if they should be added to your 2020 list with ideas on what you can/will do differently to succeed.
CONNECTIONS
After you have reflected on your achievements, take some
time to think about any relationships that were damaged and if there are positive reasons for repair. You can then think of practical ways to reconcile if you
choose to. If the choice is to leave things as they are, make sure you identify
a genuine and valuable reason for this so you’re able to move forward without
carrying with you the burden of the ties being cut.
If someone (or something) continues to cause you pain and upset, it might
be wise to let them go. Likewise, if there are people in your life who are always
good to you, whom you’ve realised you don’t make even half the effort with,
be kinder to them and show them your appreciation. They will not be around
forever. Neither will you.
YOUR MANTRA
YOUR MANTRA
Something that has helped me to get through the more challenging
days this year is having my own motivational phrases (on the walls at home, written down and also memorised) that I can say aloud
or quietly to myself to keep me focused, positive and strong both mentally and
emotionally. For me, this has worked better than having an inspiring quote saved
as the screensaver on my phone so, this will continue to be my go-to motivation tool in 2020.
Here are some of my fave mantra’s (these are not my own):
Here are some of my fave mantra’s (these are not my own):
1. “I am enough”.
2. “I am fearless”.
3. “I am a force for good”.
4. “I am attracting all the love I dream of and deserve”.
ABANDON YOUR COMFORT ZONE
When was the last time you took a spontaneous trip alone or
ticked something off your bucket list without waiting for a friend or loved one to be
available to accompany you? One of the best ways to continue learning and
developing is to go out into the world alone (obviously as safe as possible). There is everything right with
spending time in your own company. You don’t need to venture far or spend a
silly amount of money to have a great (solo) time!
Last month, I took a lunchtime walk in a
direction I’d not been before. I had no idea where I was going and didn’t
recognise any of the street names. I just walked and made a note of the route I
was taking. I discovered new street art, lovely greenery, picturesque
locations (that would later make for a lovely photo-shoot) and I also met someone
who (through a brief chat) reminded me that life only truly happens when you take a walk beyond familiarity. Real talk! It was an
awesome conversation.
INDULGE - you deserve to, right?
For the ultimate relaxation, I love to soak in a very
hot bath, filled with my fave products from Lush and a good book! For a sense
of peace and to give myself a break from regular surroundings, I like to
visit a certain spot in London during the early hours of the morning – a quiet walk
around or meditating in this space is always a winner for my mind. For solo enjoyment,
I like to go to the cinema/theatre (again, as early as possible or whenever most likely to be
quiet) and with friends, it can be anything if it has all of us laughing!
As the saying goes, “do more of what you love” at every
given opportunity! Before the Christmas mayhem gets underway and the 1st of January arrives, I pray that you give yourself the gift of open and honest self-reflection, time to unwind and ease any tension, as well as some time to do something solo.
Now, if you haven't already, go line up your goals for 2020!! FOCUS!
Try not to let yourself be distracted. You've got this!
Try not to let yourself be distracted. You've got this!