SINGLE CHARLEY

“How are you so happy being single, Charley”? I am SO done being asked this question. I mean, firstly, rude! Secondly, I'm living! That's how.

Also, I'm excited by the daily blessings, challenges, opportunities and every other positive aspect of my life. That's not to say I am finding ways of keeping busy so as to distract myself from not having a partner [so don't even come at me with that]. I just don't feel any need to be in a romantic relationship.

For me, fulfillment has never truly come from having that so-called special someone in my life. Such people have added to my happiness however, they are certainly not the reason for my happiness. Plus, the solo-ship enables me to get to know myself in ways that (1) I didn't know I needed to do, and (2) I don't believe is possible when in a relationship, which I'm loving. The End! 

However, continue reading because, the following may be of use to you if you're without a partner and find life in the single lane a little difficult.

FOCUS ON YOUR PERSONAL GOALS

• Professional/career pursuits
• Development/growth
• Study a new subject
• Explore a new city

BE MORE SOCIABLE

• Meet-up’s with friends
• Spontaneous day trips
• Join a gym/start home workouts
• Take up a new hobby

STEP INTO DAILY APPRECIATION

• Get to know yourself or a deeper, authentic level
• Establish your short term goals [subject to lifestyle changes, etc.] 
• Check your faults/flaws and look at where you can/need to improve - then do it!
• Learn to be comfortable with yourself – your own company, who you are as a person, etc.

GET SOME PERSPECTIVE

It would seem that a lot of people place HUGE importance on a ‘need’ to find their ‘perfect’ partner and settle down. Personally, that would be really nice [we all want that] but, I am not at all desperate nor in a rush to meet someone with whom I might enter into a long term committed relationship. At the time of sharing this post, I am more concerned with the relationship I’m having with myself and with God! Also, FYI: (1) perfection is a myth and (2) I believe it is better to want than need, because what happens when the need expires? Hm... LOL!

I think independence, self-worth, positive people [great friends, a good family] and the alike are what you should be indulging in whilst single. Try to spend quality time with those whose values and standards align. Especially when it comes to your spiritual, mental and emotional well-being. The impact of the beliefs and opinions of others can make such a difference to the type of people you meet and welcome into your life. Be conscious of that.

Try not to allow yourself to be so easily influenced, or pressured into ‘finding’ yourself a partner. Life is too short to waste it on the search for your 'other half' when you have yet to get things right with who you are and achieve your [short term career, or personal] goals. No matter how long it takes, I genuinely believe that, eventually we each [organically] meet our 'The One' with whom we are profoundly aligned. BE patient, stay active and remain hopeful. You're so deserving of true love and it will come your way when you quit desperately calling it to arrive.

Written by Charley Jai - @charleyjaiuk

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