Sunday, 4 June 2017


Father's Day definition
Dear Sperm Donor,
I have just one thing to thank you for: being alive! For that, I will always be grateful, The End. You give me no reason to respect you, or to regard you as anything other than a sperm donor....


In so many ways and for so many reasons, the definition of Father's Day is everything to numerous people all over the world and forever will be. However, for some, the idea that there is a day on which dad's are celebrated is both daunting and uncomfortable.

An absent parent can have the most devastating consequences on a child that may later manifest during their teenage, or adult years, following a negative impact on their development - mental, emotional, social etc. It is a well known fact that children raised in single-parent families are more likely to experience far more difficulties in their life.

I once dreaded Father's Day! I'd try to avoid it at all costs. I didn't want to see anything about it, speak on it, actively engage with anything associated with the celebrations and I most certainly did not want to discuss the one who contributed to me being on this earth!! I was all, "scrap Father's Day and Mother's Day and instead let there be one day known as Parents Day", until I became an auntie.

I've probably said this before, but, there's something about knowing that I have a responsibility to the youngsters in my family; that I have a heartfelt and moral duty to do right by them. Despite not wanting to become a parent myself, I am very maternal and am passionate about doing and being the best I can be for the young people I work with, or come into contact with. It's so important. Now, more than ever, we adults need to be positively influential in the lives of every child we meet!

Getting into my own story about being raised in a single-parent household is long, real talk. Suffice to say, I use the term 'sperm donor' to refer to the dude partly responsible for my life. I don't know if I, or my siblings, would be considered as one whose struggles have been a direct result of an absent father, however, I do know that understanding can provide the most wonderful perspective and perspective (for me personally) is the new everything.

If you have questions about your absent parent, ask. Having the answers might be just what you're in need of and you've a right to know. If you're unsure how to approach the subject, perhaps write down your queries / concerns in a letter. 

No matter what, stand by your responsibilities, especially as a parent. Be positively present in your child's life from the day they are born. If nothing else, do so because, you want to ensure you are never the reason for the permanent psychological damage of another human being.

Sunday 18th June 2017 - Father's Day

Thanks for reading.


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