Jealousy is a multifaceted emotion characterized by insecurity, fear, and distrust, typically arising when someone perceives a threat to something they value—such as a relationship or possession. It can surface as feelings of anger, resentment, or low self-worth. While often linked to romantic relationships, jealousy can also emerge in other types of connections, including those between siblings, friends, or colleagues.
He chose a younger, 'easily impressed, inexperienced' girl over you and you're jealous.
Not because of who he chose, or why he chose her, but because you realise you wasn't even an option while he was 'it' for you.
They boldly quit the job you both hate and you're jealous.
Not because they left you behind but because you don't have the confidence to do the same.
Since she walked away from the friendship, she seems to be thriving and you're jealous.
Not because of her wins but because she is sharing her wins with others.
You saw the class "underachiever" on TV and you're jealous.
Not because they're succeeding but because you seem to be constantly failing.
Learning to manage your jealousy is SO important, and to do that, you need to respond to it in a rational way. It's a natural emotion so, try to first own it without judging yourself. Take time to understand the (root) cause - what are you afraid of? Where is the fear coming from? Do you feel inadequate? Boost your self-esteem/confidence - make sure you are surrounded by people (and also participating in activities) that have you feel capable and worthy. If the person to whom your jealousy is directed/caused by is one you trust, it might be a good idea to talk with them about how you're feeling. Avoid comparisons! Nobody is you and being unique will always be a GREAT quality. Practise daily gratitude for all that you are blessed with and, lastly, set boundaries!
The girl he chose is a reflection of how he feels about himself, not you.
They were brave enough to quit the job because of the fear of not doing so.
She walked away to protect herself in a way she hasn't before, not to hurt you.
The class "underachiever" was wrongly labelled; we win by choice not by default.
Have an honest chat with yourself, acknowledge your flaws and work on your personal development so you can excel in all areas of your life, with the right people around you. Often the person or situation you're jealous of on is not as it appears to be (not that this should matter). As the saying goes, everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about, and only highlights (even of the bad times) are routinely shared! If you're on the receiving end of jealousy, try to empathise - some people believe their lives to be lacking so much in comparison to everyone else which is their issue to resolve. Be happy for what others (appear to) have, no matter what, and remain thankful for yours.
Written by Charley - @charleyjaiuk
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