I used to believe everything was black and white — my logical mind couldn’t grasp anything else. Now I realise life is far more colorful, and so are the imperfect humans trying to navigate it.
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"If they take ages to reply, ask if they have space for you in their life right now."
"If they have you feeling confused, ask them directly how they feel about you."
"If they struggle with communication, ask what their preferred way of communicating is."
The thing with many people today — not just this generation — is they often lead with assumptions, opinions from others, and advice from social media quotes likely born from one-sided conflict. Instead, we should be leading with care, consideration, clarity, and healthy boundaries.
There’s a difference between chosen behaviour and an unwillingness to change, versus daily battles that mentally and emotionally deplete someone. When you take their actions (or lack thereof) toward you personally, you remove the mutual opportunity to meet in the middle and understand each other’s needs.
Don’t be a pushover, and never allow yourself to be used — but do give people a fair chance to do better, to the best of their ability.
Start with kindness. Be slow to dismiss or block, and quick to understand — be patient, but cautious. Only walk away if there’s a consistent pattern in how they treat you (especially if it's just you they treat in that way) which cannot be explained by their circumstances, and they show no desire to make improvements.