Regardless of your age, where you are on your life map, what you have or haven't achieved, it is not the business of any woman to dictate to a man, to tell a man over and over again where and how he is failing. If your partner does not stop doing the things that upset you and/or lets you down why do you stay when (no doubt for long enough) he has shown you that he will not change, love or no love? I’d say the fault is yours not his. He knows he is stubborn and so do you. You might have felt that you've made the necessary changes on a personal level over time (which he may acknowledge) but, if you both agree (or you quite evidently see) that he remains unwilling to try or do the same to keep you, you should walk leaving him available for whichever woman can accept the things you can't. Are you aware of just how much another man; The Right man, will value and respect you? Do you know your worth? Get to know!!
If your partner will not acknowledge their part in the breakdown of the relationship (usually because they are stubborn and/or have issues that they've not shared with you), instead of calling them out on absolutely everything they do wrong, all the time, accept that, because of this, it is unlikely the relationship will improve and then decide what to do with that acceptance. Ever heard of 50/50, meeting each other halfway? Surely it’s not that hard to give the respect you want in return… I mean, that’s how it works. We all know this, right? If you are not respected and do not trust them I cannot understand why you stay...
Within relationships there should not be a tit for tat thing, some sort of one-up-on-you game that is played, and where that is the case it is a sure thing that it will not work out. If a woman expects to be listened to why does she then find it difficult to listen? I, myself, have been so guilty of this!! Sometimes I still am and it is not okay on any level… If a man knows that he would hate to discover his woman has been flirting, sexting or cheating why does he not know that she will feel the same should he do that to her? Rocket science it isn't yet so many of us fail so terribly at relationships. Bottom line: If you know you would not want them to do it to you….
I think both individuals must play by the same key rules; the things that you want are what you must also give! That’s it! Be honest, explain your actions and choices, answer the questions posed (nothing to lose if you have nothing to hide), allow yourself to be held to account whenever you mess up, accept responsibility for any problems you cause, try and adapt, stop being fearful, do not treat the next as though they are the last (no two people are the same). Support one another wholeheartedly, remember that tomorrow could be too late and so live for today. Always, always keep the lines of (effective) communication open and keep dating each other! Be a unit, a team that nobody can come between, take time to understand one another, pay attention, do not blame one another for your insecurities, hear each other and listen to what is being said, don't assume, praise where it’s due, appreciate the differences, celebrate the similarities, forgive their past and if the past has any uncomfortable place in the present perhaps try to bring it to a place where it does not and will not affect your future together.
Women, we are not always right! We cannot change a man and if we want to we shouldn't be with him because, when we met him and took him on, in doing so, we agreed to let him be himself!! We must not think we can call the shots and give instructions; we do not have the right to shut down a man and leave him without room to breathe, speak, or be the one to make a decision about the relationship. Ladies, putting him down does not keep him at home and pointing out all that you think (because, he will never agree) is wrong with him might just push him in the very direction you believe your (failing) efforts are preventing him from going. The bed of another woman, real talk!
Do yourself and your prospective partner a favour by knowing what you want before you step out on the dating scene and when you meet, make sure you take the time to go on many CONVERSATIONAL
IMPORTANT CONVERSATIONS FIRST! Bedroom antics can happen later when you know it’s worth getting attached/connected in that way. Without a doubt, feelings change after two people have slept together. While some can remain detached and see it as nothing more than sex, there are those who view intimacy as a bonding experience; a way of connecting on a deeper level and so, for them, naturally they may start to want more – commitment. Dating can save a lot of heartache and the sharp, shooting pain one can get across the forehead as a result of severe frustration!! Make decisions based on intellect not your anatomy!!! Date and talk for several weeks, or even a couple of months before you exchange bodily fluids ;)
HAPPY LOVING ;)